Concealment of students’ psychological problems
Why do psychological problems appear younger and more hidden?
We know that people begin to socialize from the age of seven, and they are adolescents from twelve to twenty-two. At this stage, they will encounter the pressure of learning, the management of emotions, the real self and the ideal self.If not, psychological problems will occur.
What is socialization?
It is dealing with people and communicating with society.
A person’s life is a life of continual problem solving. This was the case for young people, and adults are no exception.
If adults encounter various pressures at work, poor relations with leaders, financial difficulties, or marital tensions, or emotional discomforts, they will also cause psychological problems when they cannot be resolved.
When the economy enters a stage of rapid development, more and more families become rich, but they have no experience in educating rich children.
The psychology of the poor is very different from that of the rich. Our educators, including parents, must study this issue carefully.
When we are poor, we put survival first and education second.
For example, in this generation, when we are in middle school, we have to work with our parents, do housework, take care of our brothers and sisters, experience labor and experience life, and we are more mature.
The children of the poor are more skinny and grew up in a difficult environment from childhood. They have developed a character that can bear hardships and stand hard work, and have developed the ability to withstand stress.
When we get rich, we put the education of our children first and the survival of our children second, especially the one-child families. We only let them do nothing except to focus on their studies.
In the long run, children will not be able to truly appreciate life and experience life from their lives. Their psychology will gradually shrink and degenerate. Relations with teachers and classmates will not be harmonious. Their ability to resist setbacks and their ability to manage time and emotions will not improve.Various psychological problems arise.
But for various reasons, we are often worthy of these psychological problems.
There are several reflections on adolescents’ psychological problems: First, to evade.
That is, he lost the freedom of heart and mind, and wanted to escape the normal life of reality.
For example, sleeping during the day, surfing the Internet all night, walking on the street or running away from home all day long are all external reflections of mental health.
The second is venting.
That is, the child vents his frustrations and problems that he cannot solve.
The newly established environment of the Chinese Youth Growth Base we started was completely damaged one month later. The children who were treated there vented themselves by violent acts such as smashing and attacking.
This kind of psychological abnormality should attract the high attention of our parents.
In addition, there are many, some kinds of introverts who do not speak, self-harm and even suicide.
Other psychological problems are relatively hidden and difficult to find. The specific manifestation is that he should not do what he is doing. He delays back and forth when there is a problem. Some of them go to drink.Even more terrible is drug use.
Others hate school because they fall in love too early, and even hate teachers. These are all early signs of adolescent mental health.
If these problems are not resolved in time, they will develop into depression and obsessive-compulsive disorder.
The current incidence of depression in China is 5%, ranking second in the national incidence of disease, second only to cardiovascular and cerebrovascular diseases, and most of the depression is adolescents.
Our statistical analysis shows that 85% of the children’s psychological problems are caused by parents or families, and 15% are attributed to schools.
Why can’t children solve their problems and have various psychological problems?
Psychologists found that from the age of two, parents did not give him a good delay in building satisfaction.
“Satisfaction” is a psychological term.
What is satisfaction?
It is after the child is two years old that he wants to get a sense of satisfaction.
What should our parents do when the child wants this and that?
The correct approach is to refuse unreasonably and give it reasonably.
For example, if your child wants you to give a good thing today, you have to tell him to buy it later.
In layman’s terms, it is necessary to set rules for children, and this rule should be established before the age of seven.
Now, we often give the child whatever they want, and often the ones who don’t want it, which can’t establish a delay in satisfaction.